In lieu of this, it becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. The position of parents, and the mutual obligations and responsibilities, have been addressed in Islam in great detail.
The Qur'anic commandments, as well as the sayings of Prophet Muhammad pbuh guide us in this matter. The parent-child code of behavior in Islam is unique, since rules were laid down by divine command. References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur'an. There is no concept of leaving our parents in Islam, even if they are disbelievers.
Asma once asked the Prophet pbuh how she should treat her mother, who was a polytheist. This is because our mothers carried us for nine months, and were our primary caregivers when we were children.
In one saying of the Prophet Muhammad pbuh , a companion asked him who deserves the most good treatment and respect. We are told this three times over. In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad pbuh said that paradise lies under the feet of the mother. This further reiterates the fact that our mothers are to be the most revered and cared for people in our lives.
In yet another saying, we are told that a man did the entire pilgrimage, Hajj, with his elderly mother on his back. The Prophet Muhammad pbuh told him that this did not even repay his mother for a single kick the man gave his mother while she was bearing him in the womb.
This is not to say that our fathers do not deserve respect. The story of Prophet Abraham pbuh in the Quran tells us that his father was ready to kill him for destroying religious idols and abandoning the pagan religion. Abraham, instead of losing control, merely prayed to God to have mercy on his father and to help him find the truth. Many youth today shout obscenities if their fathers give them a stern lecture. From our prophet we learn that this is never acceptable, no matter the situation.
Parents care for and nurture their children their entire lives, but at one point this duty reverses, parents become old and feeble and in need of this care and nurturing themselves. The child is obligated to care for the parents by displaying all the qualities of bir and knowing that the reward for this is with God.
The life of Abu Hurairah also contains many demonstrations of his love and devotion to his mother. When he first embraced Islam, no amount of pleading could convince his mother to do the same.
Weeping and afraid, Abu Hurairah approached the Prophet and begged him to make supplication to God asking that his mother be guided. Throughout his life, Abu Hurairah remained kind and courteous to his mother.
This gentleness and affection between Abu Hurairah and his mother teaches us that mutual respect and love is a duty. A Muslim is obliged to show respect towards parents even if they are non-Muslim, and the greatest love he can show towards them is to supplicate to God in hope that they will be guided to Islam. At the time of the Prophet, many of those who embraced Islam found that it conflicted with the beliefs and requests of their parents, but they were taught to be kind and to obey their parents, except if the parents demanded they disobey God.
Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do.God says in the Quran, But if they use to essay you join in worship with Me acres of which you have no parent, obey them not; yet bear them just in this life with essay and consideration. Fickle gratitude to Me and to thy sources; to Me is thy stark goal. From this verse, we came to about that must continue building for parents about after they die.
This is a model example of parental responsibility and advice. Why is this so?
O' Prophet , tell them that whatever wealth ye spend, it is primarily for parents and relatives. Another tradition from al-Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq a. This gentleness and affection between Abu Hurairah and his mother teaches us that mutual respect and love is a duty.
To look at them with kindness and mercy and always to ask Allah's Mercy for them shows love. It is the way they learn, and is not in itself something bad. You have failed in your duty to him before he has failed in his duty to you; you have done wrong to him before he has wronged you. So we will not look at the similarity between the love of parents and love of Allah. Right from birth to weaning, and from protection to upbringing, at every stage it is the parents who are the means of conveying the Grace of Allah to the child.
Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.
He ordered prayer and zakat wealth-tax , so if someone prayed and did not pay zakat, his prayer will not be accepted; and ordered to show gratitude to Him and to his parents, so if anyone did not thank his pa-rents, he did not thank Allah; and ordered to fear Him and join the relationship, so if anyone did not join his relationship, he did not fear Allah. You have failed in your duty to him before he has failed in his duty to you; you have done wrong to him before he has wronged you. Children are a trust given to the parents.
Our treatment of our parents is shown in the same way: we should be humble, respectful, and loving towards them. Qur'an, And thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents Qur'an, It seems that the lordship of parents is a mirror of the Lordship of Allah. God says in the Quran: Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. The Almighty Allah is above all rulers and superiors; therefore, His commandments can never be superseded by any other rule, regulation or order. Love is like the flame of a lamp and obedience is like its light. The only thing that we can do is to acknowledge our shortcomings and submit ourselves, in obedience and loyalty, before our parents.
In one saying of the Prophet Muhammad pbuh , a companion asked him who deserves the most good treatment and respect.
In this world, it is the parents who are the cause of the existence of the child; it is they who strive to bring it up; it is they who endeavour and look forward to take it to the height of perfection. Therefore it is not just a matter of teaching Islamic Studies, Quran and Arabic under the same roof as Arts and Sciences, but of developing an integrated Islamic perspective on all forms of knowledge right across the curriculum. Parents will be held accountable for this trust on the Day of Judgment. Parents are to be treated well at all times this is a virtuous kind of act in the sight of Almighty Allah. Always speaks to parents gently and respectfully. Thirdly: It is known that the worship of Allah is one of the important ways of attaining prosperity and happiness.
She spent sleepless nights caring for us. If there is anyone, after the Creator, who is directly responsible for the existence and progress of the child, it is parents. It becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost Kindness, Respect, and Obedience to our Parents. Asma once asked the Prophet pbuh how she should treat her mother, who was a polytheist. A companion of the Prophet once asked him which of the many good deeds a man can do is the most loved by God. If either of the conditions is not fulfilled, there remains no compulsory obligation; but the emphasized recommendation to help the parents remains in its place, because al-Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq a.